RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING
Couples and relationship counselling in Nanaimo and online.
For the conversations you keep trying to have,
but can’t quite get through.
RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING
When trying harder isn’t bridging the distance.
You’ve given it time, chosen your words carefully, and tried to let the small things go. Yet the tension remains – leaving you both feeling isolated, exhausted, or quietly stuck on repeat.
You don’t have to navigate this heavy pattern by yourselves. Together, we can look at what’s happening underneath and find a steadier way for both of you to show up honestly, openly, and more like yourselves.
THE THERAPEUTIC PROCESS
A space to understand the pattern, not blame each other.
Relationships can get painful when both people are trying, but still missing each other. One person may push for connection while the other shuts down. One person may feel criticized while the other feels alone. Before long, the same conversation keeps happening in slightly different ways.
In our work together, we slow things down. We look at the pattern between you, make room for what each person is feeling underneath, and practice new ways to speak, listen, repair, and reconnect.
Slow the pattern down
Notice what happens between you when conversations go sideways.
Understand what’s underneath
Make room for the hurt, fear, anger, longing, or protection beneath the conflict.
Practice new ways through
Build simple tools for communication, repair, boundaries, and emotional safety.
Reconnect with clarity
Move toward more honesty, trust, and connection, whatever that looks like for your relationship.
AREAS OF SUPPORT
Support that fits your relationship.
To make finding support simple, I offer a variety of ways to meet: in-person in my Departure Bay office, in your own home (within 10km), online, or by phone.
Communication and recurring conflict
For the same argument that keeps coming back, the walking on eggshells, the misunderstandings, and the moments where both of you leave feeling unheard.
Repairing hurt and rebuilding trust
For relationships carrying old pain, resentment, betrayal, distance, or a breach of trust. We move gently and honestly, without rushing repair.
Parent and adult child healing
For parents and adult children who are ready to reconnect after painful distance, estrangement, or years of things left unsaid, and want support having conversations that feel safer and more honest.
Consensual non-monogamy and relationships outside the usual box
For partners navigating agreements, boundaries, jealousy, repair, communication, and emotional safety within the relationship structure that fits for you.
Uncertainty about staying together
For people who still care, but aren’t sure what comes next. We can make space for honest conversations about whether repair is possible, what would need to change, and what each person truly wants.
INVESTMENT & STRUCTURE
Time and space to focus on your relationship.
Relational change grows best when it is not rushed. Relationship counselling sessions are structured around a 90-minute format to ensure there is gentle, dedicated room for both of you to feel completely heard and supported.
This intentional time allows us to steadily ground your nervous systems and practice simple tools that make sense for your everyday life. Every step we take together is naturally tailored to your unique situation, your goals, and your shared pace.
Couples and Relationship Counselling
90 Minutes - $225 + GST
Common Questions
Bringing your relationship into a therapy room can feel like a big step, and it is completely natural to wonder how the process works.
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No. My role is not to decide who is right or who is the problem. My role is to help you understand the pattern you’re caught in, and support each person to speak honestly, listen differently, and take responsibility for their part.
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You don’t need to have that figured out before you come in. Sometimes relationship counselling helps people repair and reconnect. Sometimes it helps people get clearer about what is no longer working. Either way, we’ll make space for honest, respectful conversations.
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That’s common. You don’t both have to arrive with the same level of comfort or certainty. What matters most is a willingness to be curious, to listen, and to try something different.
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It can, if both people are willing to slow down and participate honestly. We won’t rush forgiveness or pretend things are fine. We’ll make space for what happened, what it meant, and what would be needed for trust to begin rebuilding.
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Yes. I work with couples, partners, co-parents, consensually non-monogamous relationships, and other relationship dynamics. I also work with parents and adult children who are trying to repair after hurt, distance, or estrangement.
No matter what worries or questions you bring to our sessions, we will explore them together in plain language, making sure the space always feels collaborative.
Your next chapter starts here.
No matter how long you’ve been stuck in the same patterns, change is always possible. If you’re ready to take the first step, let’s figure it out together.